Anxiety, Student Entitlement, and Over-Parenting

Note: This is the first in a series of entries on educational, generational, and cultural trends observed by our firm during this past year of client consulting engagements.  We will continue this series throughout the summer of 2014.

Three years ago, I wrote a white paper that later became a chapter in our iBook "Long Live Strategy".  The paper - "I Just Want Her to Be Happy" - was a commentary on parental attitudes about the well-being of their children as students in schools and colleges.  The basic thesis was simple: above all, parents just want their kids to be happy, often without the hard lessons of failure, disappointment, and hard work, creating a culture of both over-parenting and youth entitlement.

Fast forward to today.  During our research this past year, we still see this trend alive and flourishing.  We continue to see the residue of a culture of student entitlement and over-parenting in our work with independent schools and private colleges.  Some hallmarks of this in our research include the following.

Prepare the Path for the Child, Not for the Path.  Parents today have an absurdly high intervention rate with their students.  The tend to intervene when the going gets tough in order to make sure that their child does not encounter too much hardship, difficult life lessons, or uneven treatment, all of which they believe are tantamount to injustice.  They see no problem with intervening with an important life lesson from a coach or faculty member - whether it be about playing time or term paper grading - and make sure that their student has a parental advocate.  Students today seem to have parents that are full-time agents rather than full-time parents and educators, teaching their children about the unfairness of life.  I am all for advocating for my children, but where is the student in all of this? Parents today still seem overly concerned with preparing the path for their child, rather than ensuring that their children are ready for the path.  

Student Entitlement.  Students today seem more empowered to expect something for nothing.  Perhaps it is an outgrowth of their parents general strategy toward raising them, but student entitlement appears to be at an all-time high.  When we talk with long-time faculty members at distinguished colleges and prep schools, they continue to lament about the work ethic of this generation of students as unlike any generation they have seen.  They are disappointed in the general apathy from students on basic performance indicators such as readiness for class, attitude toward their future, effort in practice, and expectations of success regardless of effort. Students today seem to have an expectation that a successful tomorrow is not only a guarantee, but that it is owed to them.

Anxiety.  We might have to understand this generation of parents better to understand their parenting strategy.  After all, this generation of parents has witnessed first-hand the failure our financial system, terrorism on American soil, and general cultural shifts in living, such as the role of the church, family, and even government in their lives.  Collectively, these parents have seen major cultural shifts that have perhaps led them to the conclusion that nothing is guaranteed anymore in the world.  Their collective response may be about over-controlling for the future. 

I continue to believe that the deadly combination of student entitlement and over-parenting are the two most threatening values to success of American students in the future.  Collectively, they create anxiety and an expectation that is unreasonable and unhealthy for educational institutions.  More importantly, it creates a youth culture that is unproductive and unlikely to advance America into the competitive future that we all know is at our international doorstep. Most cultural pivot points result in the pendulum swinging in the opposite direction.  Is it possible that in ten years we will be writing about parents and their "school of hard knocks" approach?  We will find out together.

Summer Blogging on Educational Trends

We are launching an online initiative next week that may benefit many of our clients and friends.  Fast Forward is a summer blog series on trends and forces that we observed in our research and work with clients during the 2013-14 academic year.  We know that many of our independent school and college clients spend the summer completing some research, analysis, and planning - often in retreat style settings - and we are hopeful that our Fast Forward entries will be both timely and instructive.  Watch our Twitter feed @symmonds on a regular basis for entries, which will begin on June 9th. 

Enrollment, Marketing, and Advancement Executive Searches

Searching for the right executive professional to lead your enrollment management, marketing, or advancement team?  The summer and fall are common times to test the waters and launch comprehensive searches for lead professionals in independent schools and universities.  ISA offers a wide array of search services that assist clients in creating the proper search strategy, building a proper executive profile, and coordinating the outreach arm of the search.  Check out our search page to learn more as well as view current and recent searches.

The Evergreen School Selects ISA

The Evergreen School in Shoreline, Washington has selected ISA for strategic planning in the 2014-15 academic year.  The Evergreen School is an independent Preschool to Grade 8 school founded 50 years ago in 1963 to educate children with extraordinary minds. 

Evergreen’s complex and challenging hands-on curriculum emphasizes global awareness, environmental stewardship and social and emotional learning. It encourages students to take intellectual risks and step out of their comfort zones. The school desires for their students to think out of the box, to ask questions and to make discoveries about themselves and their world. Teachers foster a non-competitive classroom atmosphere allowing students to grow at their own emotional and intellectual pace.

Jesuit High School Selects ISA

Jesuit High School in Portland, Oregon has selected ISA to complete a strategic planning process for the 2014-15 academic year.  Jesuit was founded in 1956 by the Society of Jesus and is part of a 450-year Jesuit educational tradition. Jesuit High School is a non-profit, coeducational college-preparatory school for grades 9-12 that serves students of all religious faiths.

Jesuit's curriculum is founded in the educational philosophy of Jesuit founder, St. Ignatius of Loyola, and takes a holistic view of adolescent education, which includes nurturing the spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, and aesthetic gifts each student brings to campus. Jesuit hopes to accomplish this development by demonstrating a personal concern for individuals, an articulate wisdom, enthusiasm, and a sense of community. 

Spartanburg Day School Selects ISA

Spartanburg Day School has selected Ian Symmonds & Associates to complete research and strategy projects.  Our projects will commence this summer and be completed in the fall.  Spartanburg Day School is located in Spartanburg, South Carolina.

Spartanburg Day School (SDS) opened its doors as the first independent school in Upstate South Carolina in 1957. It was established as a college-preparatory school, with 35 students attending grades one through five. The school awarded diplomas to the first six students who graduated as the Class of 1964.

Fifty-six years later, the school boasts a 450 student enrollment, a history of 100% college placement for all of its graduates, and a program that educates students from grades 3K through 12.

Strategic Enrollment Management Summit - Part 2

We just finished a two strategic enrollment management summit in Houston that was coordinated through the Association of Independent Schools Admission Professionals (AISAP). The event featured attendees from throughout North America, including Canada and Hawaii.  The focus was a systems approach to strategic enrollment management.  The overall event was a huge success and we are grateful for all of the attendees contribution as well as the outstanding partnership with Janice Crampton and AISAP. We will be doing more of these summits in other parts of the country and the world and will keep our followers posted on dates and locations.